Where has the US failed its men?

There's an epidemic in the United States that isn't even passing over Christian men. It's obvious everywhere if you talk to the women. In the place where the blogger works, most are single moms working to support themselves and their children on salaries that are barely above poverty level and often having to take their former spouses back to court time and again to get the financial support they were promised.

Problem is, this epidemic is not confined to nonbelievers. Even Christian men are leaving their wives despite what the church teaches about marriage. They are all moving on to other relationships, new spouses, moving back in with their parents or setting up bachelor pads.

Where is this country failing its men? What has happened to committing to a relationship and staying in it, even when everything goes bad? Or did the men only get married to be with their wives in the good times? How can it be that when times are hard, these men run for the hills rather than standing beside their mate and battling it together? Or have the courts just made it too easy for men to tuck their tails and run?

The Bible instructs men to stay with their wife from their youth, so it can be speculated that this has been a problem for centuries. Do men have some natural instinct to dump on older woman and move on to a younger one?

Unfortunately there are more questions than answers. Perhaps the churches need to stop concentrating on making money to build a larger building and concentrate on teaching men to stay with their wives and children. This would be a far more fruitful use of their time.

Yes, it's good to have divorce recovery groups. Yet, in these groups, folks need to be taught how to weather the storms of life and stay together since many of them do remarry and get divorced a second time.

'Where are you men of courage?' Courageous. Yes, where are these men of courage? I think they all need to take a forty day journey and take the love dare. Fireproof. Maybe then they can battle the giants of fear and defeat in their lives. Facing the Giants. And do the right thing. Flywheel.

(If you don't know the movie references, I highly suggest all four of these Christian films.)



 

'Why Not Question' : Book Review - 'The Act of Marriage after 40' by TIm & Beveryly LaHaye

'The Act of Marriage After 40' is a must read for couples. It is a frank, honest approach to sex and the problems that can occur with the changes his/her body goes through. It is also a lesson of loving your partner, whether or not sex is a part of your relationship.

Some examples of things shared:

Before he turned fifty, hubby learned there are better ways to set the mood for intimacy than begging, pouting, or negotiating. (p. 80)

You're not too proud to admit being exhausted three-quarters of the way through. (p. 80)

It even covers 'in sickness and in health'. 'Accepting you spouses disability in the sexual arena will take time. You may have feelings of resentment, flashes of anger, waves of grief, and bouts of depression. Your disabled spouse is experiencing all these emotions times ten.' (p. 149)


Praise for the writer daring to address this problem and offering solutions that don't include divorcing your mate and finding someone else. Not to mention giving an example of a couple who were married over thirty years, never had sex, but had a close loving relationship.

Issues such as ED and oral sex are discussed openly and frankly as are other topics too numerous to cover in this blog.

Loving your partner physically is an important part of the marriage relationship and knowing how to do so, no matter the circumstances, makes this book a winner.